Friends far and wide

I am starting to compile addresses for my Christmas card list. I like to try to get started on them early so I can have them out in the mail in early December. Sometimes that is unrealistic (like last year) and sometimes it's not. This year, I should be able to do it.

As I work on the list, I realize that in front of me sits a testament to how rich my life as a military spouse truly is. I have friends (and family) in all corners of the earth. Literally. Left coast, midwest, Alaska, east coast, Europe, Asia, medium-sized-turd-in-the-middle-of-the-Pacific-ocean, middle east...you name it and I probably need to send a Christmas card there.

And I love that. I do not know that there is another lifestyle out there that could afford me such richness. And I DO see my life as incredibly rich. I am blessed by the fact that, pretty much no matter where I go, I will know someone in that area. I am heading to North Carolina in a few days for SpouseBUZZ Live and I am looking forward to not only seeing family members but also a few friends that I've been missing. And, of course, my SpouseBUZZ cohorts.

When we go back to SoCal for Christmas, not only will we be able to spend time with family but I'm hoping to be able to hook up with a few friends in the area as well. And not just the friends I have from my childhood but friends I've made via "this blogging thing" and via my life as a military spouse as well. What a rich life. I am incredibly thankful for it.


A few other things on my mind lately...

Some Soldier's Mom has a wonderfully informative post up about HOLIDAY PACKAGES FOR THE TROOPS. We are blessed to have our soldier home, safe and sound so I'll be taking the kids out to put together a few to send off sometime this week. What a wonderful way to let them know they are not far from our hearts. I think one of the hardest times (they are all hard, aren't they?) to be away from loved ones is over the holidays.

I know I've not been very prolific (is that redundant?) with the blogging lately. I promise it will pick back up. In the meantime, there are a few incredible things out there I would encourage you to read. The first of which is Michael Yon's latest, Come Home. I have no words to describe it so you'll just have to go read it and see what I'm talking about.

The next thing I think each and every person - especially those returning from combat, is Grim's piece On Coming Home. He discusses - in an incredibly honest and blunt fashion - the concept of PTSD and how we should be dealing with the issues that come along with it.

I was reading the part where Grim says,
"Yet now we have a society full of people who have never looked death in the eye, and never felt what it feels like to want to kill, or the guilt that comes from having wanted it. You have to come home and live among them, but to them you seem strange."

And it made me wonder...with such a small percentage of our current population having been involved in combat (in comparison with, say the generation surrounding WWII) is THAT a factor in PTSD? Grim says that those who have been through the rigors of combat have seen a part of human nature that those of us who have not been there have never glimpsed. If that is the case, is THAT why PTSD is such an issue these days?

During previous wars, servicemembers were not always in the minority. There were many others in society who were going through the same thing. So the illusion, the belief by those dealing with these issues, that they are the "odd man out" wasn't as prevalent. Is that a mitigating factor? Would the feeling of being alone, of having something "wrong", be less if more people had experienced the same things? I'm not sure if I'm articulating my thoughts very well on this.

I just wonder if the uniqueness of the current military experience, based on the fact that such a small portion of society is dealing with ever being in combat, has any bearing on how returning servicemembers are coping with the adjustment to being home.

Did any of that make sense??

That's about all for now. Try to stay out of trouble and I'll post again soon, I promise.


- hfs

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